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Fierce Love
Fierce Love

"Our North Star is Love.

And I don't mean like wimpy nappy pappy love. I'm talking about the
kind of Love that James Baldwin says, that Love is a Growing Up.

Love is Hard. Love Takes Risks. Yes, Love is Revolutionary.
Love is Fierce. Love Demands the Truth.
Love Listens to the Hard Things.
Love Hangs In & Sticks In When the Going Gets Tough.
Love Cries Tears but then Gets Moving & Makes a Way Out of No Way.

That's what I need white accomplices to do:
Love Me & My People Hard Enough to Work to Make an Anti-Racist Nation."

- Reverend Jacqui Lewis

This Fierce Love that Reverend Jacqui Lewis speaks of is something I teach in the Abundant Living online course when it comes to creating Fierce and Loving Boundaries. It's the type of Love that's not afraid to stop behaviors both internally and externally that are creating harm or draining energy. It's a Love that knows that speaking up and saying, "No," "Stop," or, "This isn't working," is not selfish or unkind, but rather is necessary in creating the highest outcome for everyone involved…

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Self-Care, Community CareKelsey Fox Bennett BoydBlack Lives Matter, Fierce Love, events, grow, change, show up, do the work, blmComment
Expectation versus Acceptance: Pregnancy & Covid-19
Expectation versus Acceptance: Pregnancy & Covid-19

About a month ago I had this entire post prepared about expectation versus acceptance - and then Covid-19 arrived to the United States and life as we knew it changed.

In my original post I talked specifically about expectation versus acceptance in my pregnancy journey.

As I moved into my second trimester I had an expectation that I would “feel better” only to be constantly hit with the reality of, “I don’t feel better,” and the following week, “Nope, not better yet!”

After a great deal of resistance I finally stopped berating myself for not meeting my expectation of wellness and fully accepted that I didn’t feel better and that was okay.

My self-acceptance was not an invitation to dwell or wallow in my awful state, but rather an invitation to stay present in my current reality and in turn, take loving actions to honor that reality and improve my state with love.

This was a big shift from what I had been doing which was running into walls of self-judgment and brute psychological force. AKA: “You will feel better because you are supposed to feel better!” Which was followed by: “What is wrong with you? Why don’t you feel better yet?”

Self-acceptance and loving action was a much kinder route as you can see.

The reason I’m giving you a shortened version of my original post is because life has changed and this lesson of expectation versus acceptance has expanded in light of our current new reality.

We live at the epicenter of the coronavirus pandemic here in NYC, which is a strange sensation to say the least…

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Self-Care, Trauma, Highly SensitiveKelsey Fox Bennett BoydCovid-19, Coronavirus, NYC, pandemic, change, pregnancy, expectation, acceptance, next steps, ease, grace, self-love, self-care, resistance, struggle, trauma, all the feels, anger, grief, wellness, "feel better"Comment
Sometimes Abundance Feels Uncomfortable - And That's Okay
Sometimes Abundance Feels Uncomfortable - And That's Okay

When we claim a new level of abundance our life shifts - how we manage our time, listen to our body, spend our money and navigate our day-to-day changes. These changes may be exactly what we desire, but when we actually step into them it might feel a bit awkward and uncomfortable, even terrifying.

This is because making changes also means loss. We lose an old part of ourselves, an old habit, or an old routine that felt comforting and safe.

Alongside loss, we also have to be prepared to receive.

We can be given the most amazing gifts in the entire world, but if we feel unworthy, we will not enjoy them...

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Highly Sensitive, TraumaKelsey Fox Bennett Boydabundance, change, transformation, habits, loss, safe, receive, let go, self-worth, self-love, self-care, forgiveness, healing, financial abundance, gift, growth, miracles, old beliefs, limiting beliefs, epic abundance, feelings, Abundant Living For The Sensitive SoulComment
The Spectrum of Sensitivity
The Spectrum of Sensitivity

A few of the participants in the most recent round of my course, Abundant Living for the Sensitive Soul, told me how surprised they were at their own sensitivity.

They had never considered themselves to be highly sensitive people, had opted into the course because they wanted to gain the tools to clear their path to abundance, but the course also helped them recognize their own sensitivity and then honor and celebrate it in order to be their best selves in the world.

Additionally, in the process of marketing the course I’ve had many people tell me that they didn’t think it was geared towards them because they weren’t sensitive at all.

This was all very interesting to me and got me thinking more about sensitivity and how people experience it...

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Highly Sensitive, Parenting, Trauma, KidsKelsey Fox Bennett Boydsensitivity, feelings, intuition, healing, abundance, Abundant Living For The Sensitive Soul, coaching, numb, avoid, stuck, change, transformation, mindfulness, victim, mask, anger, guilt, sadnessComment